My motto in life has always been “Believe the Impossible” just because you have not seen or know a certain thing, does not make it not to be true. we only believe and know what we know!
Growing up with the simple things in life, i have always been grateful for the little i had. I guess i was lucky enough to grow up having to use my own imagination, without the distractions youths have today. I took time in questioning all sorts of things, not that i got the answers to many but i enjoyed using that part of my mind because i could. The beauty of a child’s mind is that it is not scared to seek and wonder, the curiosity is infinite right up until the adolescent part kicks in. Now this was where the mind starts to get interesting.
It’s clear to point out that unless one has a desired passion or goal in life from an early age or a wealthy background to point you in the right direction, we all of a sudden get stuck and confused about our purpose. What will i do?, why am i even here?, life sucks……. This for me was a whirl wind. I remember wanting to be everything from a lawyer because i loved the tv series Alley McBeal or an architect because i loved to draw buildings but had no interest what so ever in starting the journey to get there, i just wanted it there and then.
The thing is i have always been a practical being, my brain was not wired to figure out theory of equations i just wanted to create and do. So i ended up becoming a hairdresser as it fitted the skills i had built in me. I settled in the industry pretty well and enjoyed the social side that came with it too, but 15 years down that road became less challenging plus the hours standing started to take its toll on the body. In 2012 at the age of 26 i was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia which is a muscle dysfunction, but being a positive person i did not let it ruin me. I believe that if you focus enough on the negative then that will be the way. A positive mind a positive outcome. This did lead me to go part time due to the pressure on my muscles, i decided my health was more important than any job.
Having extra time to myself i rattled my brain for other ideas to come up with for the extra money i was losing out on, but as always everything seems a dread to start from scratch especially if you still don’t have a passion for anything. As time started to tick along i saw myself thinking just as i use to as a kid, questioning everything, why is everything so hard?, why is everything so expensive?, why am i even bothering?
Age 31, no children, no ties what do i want in life? And that my friend is where it starts. I am now back to the discovery stage, without the quick, forced decisions we had to make in our teens that would mould our future. If only we knew back then what we know now things would certainly be a lot different, it is the lack of knowledge and awareness that holds us back in life.
I came to realise that it is no ones fault they are not where they would love to be in life today, it is the system around us, we are taught to live a certain way and have no choice to get there but by how it is set out for us. I took time to stop and look at the world around me and it hit me that this is not normal, there has to be a simpler way to life and there is, always has been but we were not taught to know or think this way. I found my purpose by understanding that we have control over how we live, it is how we see and think about things that create our reality, if we believe we are not good for anything then that belief becomes what it is, we simply don’t become anything because WE said so.
With this knowledge i have gathered through self discovery and research from Alan Watts to Gregg Braden about how the human mind works, my passion now is to help and teach others how they too can become their purpose in this life. Starting SFM for me was no doubt the way to begin this journey because the community i am apart of use this mindset also to make dreams become a reality. To me this is not work but my mission and i am glad i took the time in myself to be here now age 33.
With no experience in any computer work or advertising, SFM has given me the confidence and guidance to set up my own platform to use my creative ideas and make money. Now i have the opportunity to travel and work at the same time, for once i feel free to be me. So i thank the SFM team for existing.